Many people are familiar with the feeling of shame that comes from embarrassing situations we have created. It can be due to some wrongdoing or embarrassment for another person. It can be so embarrassing that you are ready to fall asleep on the spot.
These are all attitudes from our childhood, when we were told to be diligent, neat, correct, not to be an upstart and generally behave quietly and decently. But nobody taught that shame is a destructive feeling, capable of cornering and stopping in development. What to do if shame depresses you?
Sprinkling your head with ashes
It is very important to distinguish the situation of incomprehensible shame and the real situation, where you were wrong or went to a conflict with his conscience. These are different stories. Also, you shouldn’t confuse guilt and shame. Guilt is different in that you are objectively aware of the situation and can fix it by apologizing in time. And shame is just your feeling and perception of what is going on.
Mom, how embarrassing
There is unwarranted shame. For example, because of your appearance or when you “gnaw” at yourself for every misstep. Such feelings sit in your soul and interfere with your life. What to do with it?
To cope, try to accept the fact that:
- There is no perfect in the world, you can not be ashamed of his appearance, you are what you are, the only and unrepeatable;
- If constantly to be ashamed, it will be worse only for you, you will not become happier, and only will add to yourself still and a sense of guilt;
- There is no person who does not get into trouble. You’re no exception.
- Awkwardness isn’t just temporary, it’s fleeting. Believe me, in five minutes no one will even remember what happened to you. That’s why you don’t have to pull the weight of shame on yourself.
Remember, shame never leads to good things. All the things you think, all the things you go over in your head a hundred times are purely your speculation, making you unhappy. Get rid of them and be happy.